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I remember so many things that have left  us  for parts unknown.  

It almost seems that good manners, is the biggest.  How can we show respect for others if we do not know how to be kind and use good manners?      Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

It seems that I hold the door for others, very few reciprocate or say thank you.

For some people   I think they either are very uneducated,  shy,  or are just  ignorant of the courtesy we should show each other.  

I would not like to think they  choose not to say a simple thank you.   For me its not a big deal.

A good representation of this happened to a member of my family today.   Shopping at a local department store   some person reached into her basket and helped themselves to items in her basket.   Then to top it off another woman   grabbed 2 2qt pitchers   and walked away.  Now of  course she was astonished.   She put her hand over her items and said these are my   items.  

One almost wonders  were they on  candid camera.     I have no explanation for this.  It seems people are totally engrossed in their own desires.

I was at the store the other day, a shopper behind me had 2 items.   The shopper in front of me had 300.00 dollars worth of shopping.   I offered the person behind me to go ahead.  One would do that  for others …I would think.       Next to us a new line opened.  What a flurry of people  running to the newly opened register.

Good heavens  it is not a  wild party, nor is it free money.   Why not give the next guy a break.   

Has life gotten to the point that  we must  be the one taken care of NOW?      I just do not see it that way.

I have seen people cut me off for a spot, give me the finger,and cuss me out when I was waiting for a spot blinker on  being patient.

There have been times  that I would get upset  and argue.  Now  its just not any challenge.

I find it more challenging to be nice, let them have a break,and to just let it be

My husband rest his soul   taught me that.    I was that nervous woman fighting the  behavior  not having peace.    He never let it bother him.

Other things did bother him.  He was very quiet, the opposite of this wild woman.    

I am firmly the type that has to fix things.   

Now as I look around I realize that things are not easily fixed if you let them frustrate you.

I see now that the joy of life can be sucked out of you by an employer, fellow employee, a relative, neighbor , friend or acquaintance if you let them.

I have learned that the way things were when I was a kid  have changed.   It is not  the Happy Days.  It is not Mayberry.  It is not  I love Lucy either.  The days of those shows and  Bachelor Father, My Little Margie, Hazel, Lassie and all the rest  are still in my heart and my head.

They and church and my parents shaped me.  I choose  to be the  Hazel type.   I choose to want the life in Mayberry.

Yes call me a dreamer.  The days of the Beverly Hillbillies,  Oh Susanna, Petticoat Junction each taught me something .  

They taught me to love my neighbors, lean on them, and laugh.   Those shows  taught me fairness.  

As a kid we played  in Queens .We were out   on the sidewalks in parks ,back yards  and  being nice was easier.

As a kid we were handed a bar of soap   told go out  play in the rain by our moms.  Yes Middle Village Queens was a lot of fun.  The schoolyard was where we played on weekends after homework.

Yes  we did our homework and did not talk back.   If you did get into trouble someone’s mom or dad was there to help or correct you.  If you got corrected by someone else mom and dad found out and you would catch it again.  We learned manners, good behavior by example .   

Sometimes it was a scout leader,sunday school teacher, school teacher or neighbor doing the teaching. 

In any event you learned. 

Today it seems that the young adults do not learn,   they do insane things, hurt each other and themselves. It seems there are no rules.  Kids need rules.  

Stop letting little kids talk back, get into booze, run wild and  be rude.   It is high time that they learn   from shows like Davey and Goliath, Mayberry Rfd, Lassie, The Lone Ranger, and the old cartoons.

Now its   the new cartoons full of sex and violence parents let them watch.    Those are not cartoons for children nor adults either.

So yes   they were the days    my friend I thought they would never end…..  to quote a favorite song.

You can recreate those days  make life special for kids and yes even you….

Just do it keep up the good in the world……… for me

Today my mother in law  Doris Irene Egel Scholl was laid to eternal rest.  

A good woman who blessed me by having my  husband and being his mom. 

My kids will miss her , though they did not see her much.  Living in the  southern Adirondack Foothills is far away from the big Apple.  

What she did in life will carry through in her grandchildren.   Her dtr Veronica  has 4 girls all grown some with kids of their own.    Her son Thomas  has 2 a boy and a girl   . Both of them have children, Frank and I had 2 of our own a boy and a girl 

Now if you look at those kids all grown with their own kids  who will remember their great grandma    and tell their kids about her .  Each one will have their own story. Each their own experience.  

  I wish that  I were with them all now.    I did  not attend the services.  I  thought it best to stay home and avoid the heat and effects of asthma.   

I have seen photos  my son sent of them having a remembrance meal  with the family and am happy they went.    It is important to show love and affection to your family and those who are close friends. 

History shows us that if we do not talk about our lives together  we will forget or be forgotten.   Family is so very important to me.  I do not have to  kiss fannies, nor bow down to anyone but God.  I do  , however,  believe that there are times to forgive and forget.

When we forgive someone we give our self a gift.   We also give that person a second or third or fourth chance.     I rather like  getting gifts.    I love giving gifts.  I love sharing love with others. 

I know life is short.  The days go by so fast. Time on earth is short.  Love the life you are living.

Of course we all have difficulties  , things we would rather forget.  I hope that  I can forgive myself for my mistakes  and am trying.   I find its easier to forgive others than to forgive me. Yes that is a flaw.    I am aware I am flawed. I am aware that I may not be perfect  . Oh heck I know I am not perfect but   try not to look too hard at myself in fear I may find more that I can not handle.

I do not know how many of you look at life in retrospect yet.  I know that as each person  enters or leaves this world and my life   huge changes happen.

It may not seem huge to you.  It does to me.   Family and friends are everything on earth.   We go through this world meeting and saying goodbye so often.  

Every time a child is born it is a gift.  Each life is a gift .   Open that gift gently. Open it with love ,hope and warmth.  Add in some sweetness and salt   as life needs spice.   Do things with love as love is the reason we are here.

Remember life is short    Take it one step at a time,  Take deep breaths, Enjoy each second. Make life worth your time. Share your life with those you love and those who you do not like or know.  It will make life full and happy…  

Now go life is calling you….

well gang I am trying to keep myself  busy.  Kids were on vacation all week.  Oh thank heaven they are all back to school tomorrow.    It has been wild. Very wild indeed.  Snowstorms, kids and a big red dog.

I have not been really good about watching what I eat all week, as it is just hard to pay attention this week.   I have been having a lot of back and sciatica pain,  sore throat, and swollen glands, and yes gums… guess I got what the kids have.

I have been having such pain in my left shoulder I wonder what I did to hurt it….  hurts to raise the arm at all.

But enough complaining.  I saw tonite  on Christian Tv,  Joel Osteen was speaking on the possibilities in life.

He said the truth is that  God will love us no matter what, but we must remember that we are the one who foretells our destiny.  We must realize that the gifts He gives us daily are going to grow into more amazing gifts when we yield to His Will. It is not only that we are given more, but,  the fact is that when we are in tune with Him, we realize how important each step we take towards a goal really is.   The step you take toward healing yourself , is huge. Let God in and let Him help you reach that goal. He never promised that we would have a rose garden without working for it. He did however give us His son to wipe our tears, comfort and  cleanse us of sin.    The Love of God is amazing isn’t it?

 

So now in order to honor Him we have to take care of us, not let others steal our joy and bring comfort to others.  We have to be the ones who bring His love to others…. Will you take care of you and follow him?

 

with love,

grammasrunamuck

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