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This past week   I lost one of my dearest friends  Dolores Mader of Walkill NY>

We met in Queens  when we were members of a volunteer   ambulance corps.   It was the most wonderful experience in my life. Giving help to those who needed help.  It was one experience that changed me for the better.

When you volunteer and help others    you do not realize  the experience  brings you full circle to the spot where  you begin.

When you do this you  make friends  with the most amazing, loving,  gifted  people  that God has given you.  These people will move heaven hell and earth, for you.   They will be your friend , confidant, mom,dad,sister or brother.

Dolores was that  for me.  She and her husband Paul Mader and kids will forever be family to me.

We had both just had miscarriages when we got really close.    Dolores would be the driver  and I the emt.  We would be on call while the kids were in school.  We had shared our lives and most private moments and thoughts.

I could never ask for a better friend.      I could never ask for anyone more loyal and trustworthy.

For many years Dolores served at her church, and many other organizations.

Now God called her home.

She  battled cancer for four years.      She is now victorious over  life.   God has her with him.   I know she is looking down on  her family today.

Paul and his family are  so brave    Becca their youngest daughter is getting married today to Dan .  Mom will watch from Heaven.

Her body is earthbound   Her soul is with them.  She is free  now  to praise God, be healthy and happy with Him.

God is so good.   He  BRINGS   people together for a reason.

It seems  Dolores taught me a lot.   Real Love, Hope,Joy.     Those gifts will be with me forever.

I pray that   each of you   take that friendship  when offered  .   It is  a Gift  you do  Not want to miss…..   Patti,  aka  grammasrunamuck

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Today my mother in law  Doris Irene Egel Scholl was laid to eternal rest.  

A good woman who blessed me by having my  husband and being his mom. 

My kids will miss her , though they did not see her much.  Living in the  southern Adirondack Foothills is far away from the big Apple.  

What she did in life will carry through in her grandchildren.   Her dtr Veronica  has 4 girls all grown some with kids of their own.    Her son Thomas  has 2 a boy and a girl   . Both of them have children, Frank and I had 2 of our own a boy and a girl 

Now if you look at those kids all grown with their own kids  who will remember their great grandma    and tell their kids about her .  Each one will have their own story. Each their own experience.  

  I wish that  I were with them all now.    I did  not attend the services.  I  thought it best to stay home and avoid the heat and effects of asthma.   

I have seen photos  my son sent of them having a remembrance meal  with the family and am happy they went.    It is important to show love and affection to your family and those who are close friends. 

History shows us that if we do not talk about our lives together  we will forget or be forgotten.   Family is so very important to me.  I do not have to  kiss fannies, nor bow down to anyone but God.  I do  , however,  believe that there are times to forgive and forget.

When we forgive someone we give our self a gift.   We also give that person a second or third or fourth chance.     I rather like  getting gifts.    I love giving gifts.  I love sharing love with others. 

I know life is short.  The days go by so fast. Time on earth is short.  Love the life you are living.

Of course we all have difficulties  , things we would rather forget.  I hope that  I can forgive myself for my mistakes  and am trying.   I find its easier to forgive others than to forgive me. Yes that is a flaw.    I am aware I am flawed. I am aware that I may not be perfect  . Oh heck I know I am not perfect but   try not to look too hard at myself in fear I may find more that I can not handle.

I do not know how many of you look at life in retrospect yet.  I know that as each person  enters or leaves this world and my life   huge changes happen.

It may not seem huge to you.  It does to me.   Family and friends are everything on earth.   We go through this world meeting and saying goodbye so often.  

Every time a child is born it is a gift.  Each life is a gift .   Open that gift gently. Open it with love ,hope and warmth.  Add in some sweetness and salt   as life needs spice.   Do things with love as love is the reason we are here.

Remember life is short    Take it one step at a time,  Take deep breaths, Enjoy each second. Make life worth your time. Share your life with those you love and those who you do not like or know.  It will make life full and happy…  

Now go life is calling you….

Hope is one of those things that describes the way people go blindly into situations they normally would not  .  

Hope is the one thing that keeps me going.  I know that God is my hope my path to heaven.

I know that without hope and or God there is nothing for the human spirit to lean on.

I know that Hope is like Love .  They both need nurturing,trials errors and growth.

In order to survive in this world we need both Hope and Love.  You can have on or the other ,but then you feel incomplete. 

You know you can be loved or be in love  but, without love and hope combined there is not a bit of strength to deal with life.

In this world we need Hope. In this world we need Love.  We need them more than anything now.

Times are hard enough without the incessant changes in politics, world almost at point of destruction, sickness, loneliness, sadness. 

We have to have the Hope that we can overcome all of those. For me  knowing God has my back is very important to me. 

I am an only child.  Not such a good thing. 

No one is there for you .  Most people used to have cousins close by.   My cousins are all far away.  

So  for me  it helped me know   that with God  I  even me… can do something good. 

When I am afraid of things   I either back off from it    or   dive in and be the super friendly  overly trusting type.  

Some folks do not like that.  Well they are the losers. 

When you meet a person  who has hope  its like opening a big GIFT.     Open slowly is my advice.  You do not want to waste any of the hope that is in that gift.    You want to grab it and hold on for dear life.  You want to learn how to hope, love and trust. 

  To be  near a person with Hope  can be contagious.  In fact, I hope  that you  do get close to those with Hope.  They dream, glimmer, shine and become euphoric  at the thought of joy  .

Outrageous you say?  Well   to me its outrageous that some folks have no hope, no faith, love or joy in their lives. 

I want to wish you all Hope, Joy,Love,Trust,Faith in all you do or endeavor to be. I want to wish you hugs , puppy kisses, crayolas and paper  , chalk on a sidewalk, paint on the walls,ceilings, floors and furniture.  Each of those  cries out hope. 

Hope for the future   ,the family, life,  and the  world   is within you.

I was asked if I thought that we get more love than we give.

Here is my answer:I thought I would reply to your ?   For me I have been a loving person all my life, Mom said I was this way before 2 .  At 3 she had to watch me that someone did not walk off with me.  Being loving is a hard thing. people misconstrue genuine love for manipulation,among other things. Weakness is one of the things people think of. I Know it is strength, rather than weakness to love others more than yourself. There indeed is a fine line between giving of yourself and giving all of yourself.  To open yourself to pain, non acceptance, feeling different, and yet still wanting to help another person is strength.    To allow those around you to accept the love and kindness you offer is a strength that I am proud of.  It is a gift dropped on me by God ,of that I am sure.  Many of us never know love. I have a lot to give.  I have been hurt many times, but it is ok. I still love those who have hurt me. Strange ,but true. They are human. They are creations of God. We are all weak, insecure, human beings, who make mistakes, some big some small. To not love would be the biggest mistake of all.  To not feel the touch of a loved one, a child, the breeze or rain upon your cheek,would be a great loss.    Patti  aka grammasrunamuck

 

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“God’s love can only unleash its power when it is allowed to change us from within. We have to let it break through the hard crust of our indifference, our spiritual weariness, our blind conformity to the spirit of this age. Only then can we let it ignite our imagination and shape our deepest desires.” – Benedict XVI

 

 

“Friends, again I ask you, what about today? What are you seeking? What is God whispering to you? The hope which never disappoints is Jesus Christ. The saints show us the selfless love of his way. As disciples of Christ, their extraordinary journeys unfolded within the community of hope, which is the Church. It is from within the Church that you too will find the courage and support to walk the way of the Lord. Nourished by personal prayer, prompted in silence, shaped by the Church’s liturgy you will discover the particular vocation God has for you. Embrace it with joy. You are Christ’s disciples today. Shine his light upon this great city and beyond. Show the world the reason for the hope that resonates within you. Tell others about the truth that sets you free.

–Pope Benedict XVI

Greeting to Young People

St Joseph’s Seminary, Dunwoodie

19 April 2008

 

What really maters in life is that we are loved by Christ and that we love Him in return. In comparison to the love of Jesus, everything else is secondary. And, without the love of Jesus, everything is useless” – Pope John Paul IISee More

 

 

There are so many learned people seeking what they have not found yet. So many people seem lost in our world today.

How many people are addicted to drugs, porn,cigarettes, food addictions, violent behavior,alcohol, you name it there are addictions too many to name. These people can be family,friends ,neighbors,acquaintances, or those we have not met.

All those in need are searching for something that seems out of reach, but is at hand.

 

God is there waiting to hear from us. If we come to him daily and begin a personal relationship with Him we will bring our lives full circle.  God is there for us through all circumstances. He is the one we can lean on and let Him handle all our problems,release our fears to,share our joys with and He does listen. He sent His Son  Jesus Christ to atone for our sins.   God does hear us, loves us and cares for and about us.

 

We may not see a direct correlation in what we pray for and what we receive .Sometimes those unanswered prayers are the hardest to deal with. We just do not see fully the same picture of our lives that He sees.

 

When we think we are in love with a person , is it love,true abiding love, the kind where you would give your life for? Could it be we think they are the one, but God sees more clearly knowing our hearts need protection?  Could it be that He knows what lies in the heart and soul of the one we are enamored of?

Some are called to serve in differing ways,yet  each one is of great value to our Father.   Who else knows our hearts better?

 

How many times as kids did our parents tell us..:” He/she is not the one for you”   ?   How many times were they right.

Yes sometimes they made mistakes . They are our parents and we make mistakes too.  God is the only one who is perfect and does not make mistakes.

 

I often  wonder how magnificent is our God? He is the beginning and the end. He is all knowing and all loving. He puts up with us daily,our foibles, flaws, lack of attention we give our relationship with Him.  I am sure that relationship can grow exponentially if we follow His word. We have to let God into every part of our lives. We have to take responsibility for our actions, show love for our fellow man, and Honor our Father in all we do.

 

How long have the American people allowed God to be removed from our schools, political events, sporting events, and daily lives?  How must God feel when we remove His name from our buildings?

 

How can we expect our kids and grandkids to trust God when we sweep Him our of our lives?  What kind of example are we setting?

 

God loves us. Father God created us . He blessed this USA with freedoms that no other country in the world had. We were blessed when we followed His rules.

We seem to have lost that blessing some are saying.   We THE People  can restore the blessings to this country , and her people if we follow His rules, welcome Him and His LOVE  back into our hearts, minds and the USA.

 

God is Love,

Patti

Change begets change.Much like leaves falling softly from the trees in fall ,just floating down mysteriously creating a carpet on the earth. The carpet prepares the ground and plants to survive the cold winter and snow. It magically nurtures and nourishes the earth, allowing the glorious flowers to make their awakening in spring after the harsh winter has gone. It creates a symphony of color in autumn, a white and frosty sparkling blanket over creation ,evolving into the effervescent explosion of color of spring and blooms of summer.

Our lives are full of change. We meet new people, grow and change. We all change ,we grow and change . It is an evolution in our personal lives, careers,and our spirits.

I have to admit my weight loss journey , or experience has changed me.  I have learned about my own body, learned that I am important. I have learned that how others see me is not necessarily the right view of me. It has become unceasingly apparent to me that I am more than this body which is changing.

I  am a woman with intellect, character ,sense of humor and great faith.  I did not get to be the woman I am by being alone. I learn from each of those I come in contact with.

Some have taught me that no matter how cruel they are, I am still a good person. Some have taught me that I can succeed at helping others, that my instincts are really good when it comes to knowing what to do in an emergency. Many have taught me that the love I give I get back ten fold.

In fact, so many of you have changed the way I look at myself.  As a kid I was told be quiet, did I no…  As a child I was taught that children should be seen and not heard, that they should never talk back, that children are the property of the parent in some respect.  That was garbage.  I always would tell people what was on my heart.

A funny thing kids will tell you the truth, of course unless they think they will be punished for it.   I was with my parents at a food store   A&P  one day when I was little.  It was in Middle Village NY. I was 3 or so.   I looked at the cashier who was making small talk with mom and dad.  She asked me how I was , my reply “My daddy gets drunk”  .  The lady in her smock  had a funny look on her face  did not know what to say. Mom wanted to crawl in a hole, dad embarassed laughed.

For some reason I have always been like this. It took a lot of cautioning me not to do that again, to learn to keep secrets.   That was a big change in me.   Not the best change but a change. It is never good to hide the truth.

When dad drank he beat my mom. Then she started drinking with him. I went all the bars with them. I slept on bar room tables, slept in dads car on the street, that was a big secret.  The people in the bars were nice,but I was always on stage so to speak, read this honey , go sing with the juke box.  The secret continued for a long time.

One of the bar owners was a  Christian Scientist.  He and his wife always had bible based coloring books for me. Paula was the wife, they owned the Elm Bar on Dry Harbor RD in Middle Village.  For every holiday there were more stories.

Then our new landlord Marty Emmrich and his wife Jeannette provided more bible based background for me.   Marty was dads drinking buddy. He and his wife were like aunt and uncle to me.  Love them and their kids.  Both have passed along with Martin jr.   Jeannette took me to church with her kids at Trinity Lutheran in Middle Village. We lived there for 5 yrs plus . That made a profound change in my life.

We stayed in contact up until Jeanette passed away .  I miss her very much.  She will never know what a change she made in my life.      I will never forget her.

I mention all this so that you know that change occurs sometimes slowly sometimes quickly. Change does occur despite our desire to remain the same.

Maybe the change will  be like those leaves floating softly to the ground. Just maybe the melting snow in my life will allow the beauty of flowers and love to blossom again…………Maybe… there is hope yet….

With love and hope

grammasrunamuck

this link reminds me of change…..

Have you ever really looked at the word  relationships?   Take a good look now if you have not before.

How many times have people said I hate my relationship with so and so, it stinks , or some other negative thing?   Wives say  we have no relationship any more.All he does is watch the game, hang out with the boys, drink his beer,smoke, and fall asleep  is a common grouping of complaints.   Still other wives say  ” all he does is complain about everything I do,the kids are not dressed right, his mom does it differently,why can’t we go to the playoffs,you are no fun to be with anymore.” I have heard so many wives say there is no romance in the relationship anymore.

The hubby’s are no different.  We hear “my old lady is such a drag,she complains that all I do is sit around bitc—g, and when I ask her anything she jumps down my throat , you know she has changed ,she is no fun anymore, it was different before we got married”. One of the biggies is “she does not cook anymore, she is at the ___________ gym, out with the kids, shopping spending my money.”   I have heard men say they would rather go bowling than help out on a Saturday, that the food shopping,laundry,housekeeping are all a woman’s duty along with cooking, taking kids everywhere and holding down a full time job.

Let’s go back to the beginning.   Relationship     break that word up into two parts.  Relation and ship.   What have they got in common?  Well  we know that in any ship there is a crew working together to keep it afloat.   The crew must maintain the boat, cook, clean, paint,occupy themselves , go through storms and calm.

Just the same thing in a marriage one person can not run the whole marriage and carry the person on their back, and neither can any relation between friends, lovers, family.

The relation between those in the relationship is very complicated. Anytime you have more than one person involved you get different needs emotions, wants,desires  ,hopes and dreams.   Some of these words can be interchanged with each other.

Right now in my life everything is changing .  I am changing, and coming to realize that I am important to.  If the people in a relationship of any kind with me  do not understand ,nor have compassion or the desire to work with me,I am saddened. If the person I love does not want to be with me does not get why I am upset and won’t talk about it,what should I do? There is nothing I can do that would change them.

I can only be the best I can be. I can do the best that I can,be kind,loving,and tell the people how I feel.  I can not drag the person along with me on my journey and I do not want to.  I can continue to go on.

That is the only thing I can do is to be me.   That includes hoping that life continues, relationships grow and  faith will carry us all through.

I hope this helps someone find out their value, that the relationship still is worth saving, and that  they will be able to work together and improve it.

For like the crew on the  SS Relationship, we have to work together and  love and live together . So, lets make it work in whatever journey we are on.

with love,

grammasrunamuck

 


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